What if an essential part of being human is experiencing everything it means to actually be human? I’m talking pinch-me, am I dreaming experiences, bucket-list adventures and a whole lifestyle that just about brings you to tears of joy and gratitude whenever you think about it.
When it comes to setting big, ambitious, laugh-in-your-face goals, now is the time to decide exactly what you want and why you want it. Right now, in this present moment, is the time to figure out where you’re going and how you’re going to get there, one baby-step at a time.
Free from limiting beliefs, drawing on the inspiration of your wildest dreams and greatest ambitions, what are your biggest goals in life right now?
Write them down.
It’s time to decide what you want rather than just day-dreaming about it.
From my experience as a coach, before setting off on the pursuit of those seemingly impossible goals, it is incredibly important to work through any limits you may have. Be it personal, emotional and/or subconscious limits. Without this pre-work (or warm-up you could call it) chances are you will cap your own potential, set mediocre goals that won’t push to your absolute best and ultimately subconsciously sabotage your chances of really achieving whatever it is that you want.
If you want more on moving through these limits, you can read on here…
Are These 3 Things Holding You Back From Your Best Life? And how to overcome these mental barriers medium.com Once you’re ready to set goals, it’s really pretty easy! Essentially there are three simple steps or three basic questions you need to ask yourself again and again. What do you want? Why do you want it? And how are you going to achieve it?
When it comes to goals, the best place to start is obviously with what you want to achieve. What is it that you really want? What sets your soul on fire and makes you giddy with excitement? What are you prepared to throw all your time, effort and energy into?
Referring back to the fullest human experience, what is so important to you that you can’t possibly imagine a full life without this experience? Is it owning your own successful business? Meeting the love of your life or maybe living in South America and becoming fluent in Spanish?
The thing about big goals is they are commitments, mostly to yourself. And these commitments require on-going, small chunks of work almost every day for a long period of time. So to be successful over this long period of time, you must have a strong sense of motivation and inspiration, which leads to the next question…
Why do you actually want this? Who is this for? How does this contribute to the world and your values and the person you want to be? Does this leave a legacy, help those most in need or does it empower you to be the change you wish to see in the world?
Connecting to our goals on a deeper level is essential in aligning ourselves and our intentions with our outcome.
Similar to the concept of manifestation, feeling into our goals creates an energy that we send out into our surroundings. This energy then attracts similar energy back to us in return. In aligning with our truest ‘why’ we find greater opportunities, motivation and support even if only from within.
Connecting to this sense of purpose or meaning is also an essential element in our psychological happiness. According to Dr Martin Seligan’s five principles of psychological happiness, meaning and motivation coming from something bigger than yourself create authentic and sustained happiness in life. In other words, on the pursuit of happiness, it is essential to figure out what you want and then get crystal clear on why you want it. Which in turn will lead you to the final question…
How are you going to reach this goal? Now before you get overwhelmed with the enormity of this huge task you’ve just set yourself, take a moment to breathe. Big goals are achieved by taking small, baby steps consistently over an extended period of time.
You also don’t need to know exactly how you are going to get to your destination right now, you just need to set off in the right(-ish) direction.
Break your goals down into small, medium and long term tasks. Reverse engineer, beginning from the big goals you have. Think about where you want to be in six months to be on track, then break that down further into what you need to do today and this week to set off on that path.
Finally, it is also essential you have the mindset to align and connect with your goals, ultimately helping you to figure out the ‘how’ along the way.
Here are some tools I like to use to connect with my big goals, keep myself motivated and work with purpose and intention each and every day.
Chances are you’ve heard of visualisation. Put simply it’s creating a mental image of yourself in the exact position you want to be in, with as much detail as possible.
For example, Jim Carrey used visualisation to help him land his first multi-million-dollar movie deal. In fact, he wrote himself a $10 million check for acting services rendered and stuck it to his refrigerator to see it every day. Despite living in a trailer with his family, he drove through the most affluent suburbs of Los Angeles regularly, imagining what it would be like to drive to his future home in this area after a day of being paid big money to do what he loved, acting.
He used this vision of his future self, living the life he had always dreamed of to motivate himself and truly align with this image until he reached it. Almost three years after writing this check, Jim Carrey was offered his first big movie deal, resulting in his first multi-million dollar acting pay-check.
Scripting, similar to visualisation, is a type of journaling designed to incorporate all five senses to create an emotional connection to our goals and vision of our future self. Scripting is based on creating not only an image but an all-senses-included script of a regular day or event as your best self, incorporating all the things that will occur in your best life.
Writing in the first person, in the present tense, scripting literally scripts out what the best version of your life will be.
Begin with what kind of setting you will wake up to. What does your bed feel like, your bedroom look like? How does your shampoo smell, what do you eat for breakfast? And how do you feel doing all of this?
For example, you may write:
I wake up in a decadent king bed, wrapped in silky cream sheets. I roll over and grab a book and read happily in bed while sipping fresh coffee my husband has already brewed. I have plenty of time every morning. I feel free.
By including as much detail as possible you are also getting super clear on what it is you want, why you want this and how it will make you feel. Once you have these aspects covered and crystal clear in your mind, the steps to getting there will gradually reveal themselves to you. I promise.
In my opinion, creating big goals is the only way to create true, meaningful change in your life. Once clear in your mind, these big goals then become the over-arching umbrella for your mid and short-term goals, inspiring your daily action, laying the foundation on which your future self is being built.
“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” — Nelson Mandela